Which interaction shows cost to both actor and recipient?
In social-evolution terminology, spite describes an action that imposes a fitness cost on both the actor and the recipient. Its direct payoff is therefore (−, −), unlike altruism, which costs the actor but benefits the recipient, or mutualism, which benefits both. Spite can evolve only under restricted conditions because an allele that simply harms its bearer should be eliminated. Indirect fitness can make such behavior favorable when harm is directed preferentially toward individuals less related than the population average and thereby benefits the actor’s relatives through reduced competition. Limited dispersal, kin discrimination, or “green-beard” recognition can create this assortment. Competition also often reduces both participants’ performance, but it is a broad ecological interaction rather than a social act defined by actor and recipient consequences. Examples proposed as spite must distinguish genuine costly harm from selfish interference that provides the actor an immediate resource benefit. Hamilton’s rule can be extended using negative relatedness to explain when recipient harm compensates for the actor’s cost through inclusive-fitness effects.
Ref: Ecology: From Individuals to Ecosystems, Begon et al., 5th Ed., Ch. 8-13